wolf-and-kitten asked:

Unfortunately, there will always be people who judge you. The trick is to file their opinions away under "Worth less than nothing".

cassandrademming:

crownandcollar:

cassandrademming:

I guess it just hurts because in this case, I just want to scream,”I was abused… I know what that feels like.  This gives me back my control and feels good.  That didn’t feel good and I had no choice in anything.”

But it’s like my voice doesn’t matter to them.  It sucks…  But you’re right.  I’ll just have to try my best to ignore it.

Unfortunately their mentalities are just as abusive (if not more-so) than the very abuse they claim we are participating in unknowingly.

I don’t feel like they’re mentalities that should be ignored. They’re mentalities that should be called out and stomped into the mud with education.

And if it takes raising our voices to do it, then so be it.

Sometimes I get so tired of trying to educate people who are so ready to demonize me.  You know?

It just brings back a lot of bad memories though.  Like a friend who told me, “Oh you’re into that stuff?  Then why did you complain when x,y,z happened?  You liked it right?”  I feel stupid for letting some stranger, somewhere make me feel bad for something I enjoy.  But it does bother me after a while…

rust me, I completely understand.

It won’t get fixed though unless we continue to educate them on the differences between abuse and non-coerced, non-manipulated consent.

I mean, granted it’s never going to be fixed 100%… But the demonization comes mostly from a lack of understanding. And the best way to fix a lack of understanding is through education. And maybe you won’t change everyone’s minds… But at least after that they have no excuse for their continuation and it’s no longer a lack of education but them just being a shitty person.

After that your job’s done and you can quietly dump them into the “deplorable asshat / despicable human being” bin and wipe your hands of them.

I genuinely love it when Master drops into his authoritarian voice and bellows “stop” at me in that commanding way- and then orders me, in the same voice, to take a nap, or take a breath, or go sit down.

He has a way of instantly deflating my anger in the best way. It’s the only thing on the planet that can calm me down when I’m getting upset or frustrated. It’s like getting a bucket of ice water dumped over you and puts everything in perspective again.

"Don’t put your shit on the posts of people you don’t know" they scream… By which they actually mean "Don’t reply with completely valid critiques of my behavior and words on my completely public post- a public post which I published on an easily accessible public forum"… All while belittling, degrading, and treating people they don’t know like complete shit over prejudices held which apparently triggers the “complete fucking asshole who spews personal attacks in lieu of legitimate, educated, and respectful discourse” gene… And then I’m going to make you into the bad guys and claim you’re the ones victimizing me even though you had been nothing but respectful and didn’t warrant that kind of immature and rude behavior or my asinine assumptions and accusations- on any level- and I’ve been the one being a fucking twat the whole time.

-deep inhale-

-deep exhale-

Ahhhh. The smell of complete fucking hypocrisy with a healthy tinge of perpetual victim complex and a dash of fucking bullshit… Smells great in the evening.

franzsamsa:

crownandcollar:

We had no knowledge of the individual in question and no knowledge that you were “uncomfortable with BDSM”. We were replying only to the details which you had given us- that queer and POC representation in media is deplorable, and that 50 shades of grey is an inaccurate and abusive representation of BDSM, and that you were belittling and degrading a person and their argument on nothing but the foundation of appearance with terms such as “ugly troll”. 

You said no more, and no less in your post that would give us any potential clarification of your stance and reasoning, nor the behavior and personality of the individual in question. As such, we only had what was in your post to go on, and that is what we responded to and only that.

And worse? Not only do you choose to unnecessarily belittle, degrade, and attack us when we were respectful to you in our replies, and when we said “ok well thanks for the clarification and we agree. I’m sorry you feel that way about that other thing though. If you want here’s some resources, if not that’s cool too. Good day”… You also do so in a public forum and scream and cry and play the victim when people respond to you and what you have given them.

And while we’re on the subject of beliefs hurting others, how about we talk about the fact that you insistence that BDSM is only ever abusive and cannot be anything else hurts BDSM practitioners and helps to not only facilitate legitimate abuse within our community, but also helps to hide it and ignore it, and shame the participants when it does happen.

Or how about the fact that your denial of the discrimination BDSM participants face (which, while we will MOST CERTAINLY agree is nowhere near the same thing as the oppression of PoC and MOGAI individuals, DOES exist)helps to do the same thing; helps to cover up, ignore, and pretend like the discrimination doesn’t exist- which makes it easier for it to happen.

Fact is? Neither of us have said you were wrong once. In fact, we even agreed on you with your original clarifier about POC and MOGAI representation being compared to BDSM (because it can’t be and that’s shitty, even if BDSM discrimination exists and you yourself are actually exhibiting it).

But Wolf simply told you that your insulting them was unkind. I echo’d it because your behavior is seriously fucked up at the moment when we were nothing but respectful to you…. And you made us the bad guys? Seriously? You are absolutely ridiculous and are a deplorable person despite acting as if you are a saint.

how about the fact you know nothing about the dumb ugly troll who i called an “ugly troll”? have you ever considered they’re a bad person and don’t deserve my respect?

here’s a tip: just dont put your pro-bdsm bullshit on random people’s posts you don’t know. it’s triggering. if someone is speaking out against bdsm it’s probably from personal experience. you give no fucks for the feelings of survivors. just sex. it’s all about sex to you. sex. sex. sex. 

and im not “crying victim” i am a victim. of perverts like you. 

now can you fucking dramatic freaks stop harassing me. blocked.

I reiterate for the apparently illiterate:

We had no knowledge of the individual in question and no knowledge that you were “uncomfortable with BDSM”. We were replying only to the details which you had given us- that queer and POC representation in media is deplorable, and that 50 shades of grey is an inaccurate and abusive representation of BDSM, and that you were belittling and degrading a person and their argument on nothing but the foundation of appearance with terms such as “ugly troll”. 

You said no more, and no less in your post that would give us any potential clarification of your stance and reasoning, nor the behavior and personality of the individual in question. As such, we only had what was in your post to go on, and that is what we responded to and only that.

And worse? Not only do you choose to unnecessarily belittle, degrade, and attack us when we were respectful to you in our replies, and when we said “ok well thanks for the clarification and we agree. I’m sorry you feel that way about that other thing though. If you want here’s some resources, if not that’s cool too. Good day”… You also do so in a public forum and scream and cry and play the victim when people respond to you and what you have given them.

Fact is? Neither of us have said you were wrong once. In fact, we even agreed on you with your original clarifier about POC and MOGAI representation being compared to BDSM (because it can’t be and that’s shitty, even if BDSM discrimination exists and you yourself are actually exhibiting it).

But Wolf simply told you that your insulting them was unkind. I echo’d it because your behavior is seriously fucked up at the moment when we were nothing but respectful to you…. And you made us the bad guys? Seriously?

You know absolutely nothing about us. Nothing. You don’t know who we are. You don’t know what our interests are. You don’t know what we stand for. You know absolutely nothing and your behavior towards us is deplorable- especially in light of (again) how respectful we were to you. You have made zero efforts to get to know us or to speak to us as if we were people and human beings and have- instead- chosen to resort to prejudice, anger, and hatred.

And that’s cool, you don’t have to le BDSM. We don’t care. But we would appreciate being treated with equal fucking respect. You have not been fucking victimized by us. You have been the one who has consistently been rude to us despite our best fucking efforts of being polite to you despite the fact that you have been repeatedly disgusting to us. You are absolutely ridiculous and are a deplorable person despite acting as if you are a saint.